When you're body-conscious...
Thought of the week:
No one can depress you, no one can make you upset, no one can make you anything, other that what you allow within yourself.
Dear Dolly InnerGirl,
I'm really self conscious about my body. I’m almost 16 years old and I'm still flat chested. It’s really embarrassing especially seeing as most of my friends have big breasts. In October I’m going to Sydney with my school and we are spending most of our time at the beach and I’m scared people will pick on me. What can I do?
J, VIC
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Answer:
Hi J,
How we play things over and over in our minds when they haven’t even happened yet! This is sometimes called visualization, and it is a powerful method to bring things into your life.
Example: Close your eyes and imagine you have a fresh juicy lemon on a plate in front of you. Now see yourself cutting the lemon in half and bringing one half up to you mouth and you biting into it. What happened in your mouth? Did more saliva appear? Now like, was there a lemon? No! So when we visualize we think it’s real. So now you can practice visualizing your beach holiday, feeling totally ok about your body and your friends don’t even notice!
Dear Dolly InnerGirl,
This guy from my work likes me, he's in my year at school too but we aren't in any of the same classes. He's really nice, but all my friends say he's definitely not boyfriend material. I like talking to him as a friend, but I don't want anything more and after this party we were at on Friday night, rumours have spread that we hooked up. What do I do? I don't like him that way, but I don't want to lose him as a friend.
A, NSW
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Answer:
Hello A,
There is a simple solution to this. You have all you need to settle your concerns. This guy and you speak as friends. Friends have a special connection would you agree? With a friend you can talk to them about whatever.
Just being seen together chatting at a party gave people an impression you are keen to dismiss. They don’t “get it” that you can be friends with a guy. That is their problem! And they will soon find someone else to talk about anyway. As you feel comfortable with this guy, tell him how you value his friendship, and you enjoy it the way it is right now.
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