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My best friend always steals the spotlight — and the guy!

Thursday, February 23, 2012

Thought of the week:

Follow your heart, not just your friends.

Dear Dolly InnerGirl,

Dear DOLLY InnerGirl,

Whenever I meet a new boy and plan a date with him, my best friend comes with me because I'm usually shy around guys, and it’s nice to have someone there to start a conversation. Often he will stop talking to me and start flirting with my best friend. Even asking her out! It annoys me so much because she always gets heaps of attention from guys anyway. Why can’t she go out with another guy instead of stealing mine? I’m always in the shadows when she is around. Help!
Miriam, 16

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Answer:

Hello Miriam,

Let’s try thinking about the situation from the flip side. When you are around guys, your best friend is always with you, right? You say this is because you are shy but your friend’s presence diverts attention away from you!

So what’s wrong with this picture? You already know the answer to this. How much do you want to connect with a nice guy? If you are keen, you will have to make a choice. It’s time to meet guys without your best friend there — and it’s easier than you think!

Think and picture a time when you were comfortable talking to a guy. You know you’ve done it before! Now try to remember those feelings. Close your eyes and try to go back to that place. As you remember your confidence, try channeling it again.

Next time a guy asks you out on a date, repeat this process and rock your new confidence!

Email us with your age and question at dollymail@acpmagazines.com.au with "DOLLYinnergirl" as the subject.

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User comments

Hey dolly there's a guy at school that I like but one of my friends went out with him and now there's some dirty roomers going around.about him only going out with her cause it was a dare but i dont think it is true and some people stand by me on that. So I'm scard if that will happen to me and now I'm not shore what to do. Also jurying class he will sit next to me and start to make weard jokes and being kind of an idiot so I'm not shore if he likes me or not so how do I tell

So you say you want your best friend to some along because you are shy. Then you get angry at her because the guy likes her more! Maybe he only likes her more because she is more confident then you. Just learn to be more confident, and dont ask her to come with you on a date anymore. Its not her fault, she is only doing what you want her to!

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