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Dear Dolly InnerGirl,
Dear DOLLY InnerGirl,
I recently found out that none of my friends were going to be in the same class as me next year. They are all in a class together and I am left out. The classes are graded so generally you are in the same class every year. I am in the top class at school so unless my grades slip, I will not be with any of my friends in years to come.
My friends all refuse to study, while I put in a lot of effort at school. The only other girls in my class are a group that I was friends with earlier this year, but they have become really mean and bitchy towards me lately.
Now that I won't be in class with my friends I feel that I will be left out of things like inside jokes and plans for the weekend. What should I do?
Adelaide
Related: How to make new friends.
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Answer:
Hello Adelaide,
Lets put this situation into perspective. Right now you are looking at all the disadvantages of being in a top grade class. You have made the decision to do your best at school while your main concern is losing good friends.
You say these friends like to have fun and choose to not spend time studying. When school is over, will their fun and lack of study give them choices in the real world?
So what are the advantages of maintaining your high educational goals and having a less active social life right now? Remember that your time at school is a very small part of your life - about 20 percent to be exact. Your adult life stretches ahead for many, many years.
Ask yourself what is more important. Having fun with your friends and loosing concentration on your studies? Or making an effort now to give you amazing opportunities ahead in life?
Your new class will be filled with students who are there because they are motivated to study. What a wonderful opportunity for you! As you get into a groove for the new year and align yourself with the right type of friends, your goals will start to appear.
Email us with your age and question at dollymail@acpmagazines.com.au with "DOLLYinnergirl" as the subject.
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