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When you do things without thinking, then you are not making the choice. The choice is making you.
Dear Dolly InnerGirl,
Dear DOLLY InnerGirl,
My best friend is being mean to me. Lately, I've been considered 'one of the popular girls' and she hasn't, but she seems to be ignoring me more and more and talking to the other 'cool people'. I find it weird how she tries to act cooler than me, but always follows me around. I try to be friendly, but she acts like I'm a weirdo and I'm crazy and stuff like that. She even said once that I was fat, then later on (when someone else said I was as skinny as a stick) said, "Yeah you are soooo skinny!". It kinda hurts me how she acts so different around me compared to other people. What’s wrong with her? Please help!
S
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Answer:
Hi S,
It's quite interesting how our friends can sometimes change. How this friend treats you is her problem. How you react is your problem. Ask yourself this: "Do I want to be happy, or do I need to be right?" If you choose to be happy, you'll choose ways to find happiness.
Right now you are focussing on the one girl who has decided to reject you. Why not try to focus on the people around that you have a good connection with? But remember these friends may also go through change.
The most effective way to deal with other people's behaviour is to change yours. It is sometimes a painful lesson for those who are 'popular' to realise that not everyone likes you all the time.
Take three deep breaths. Think of something that gives you a sense of gratitude or a really special time when you felt really really good.
Take your index and second fingers, and place them in the middle of your chest near your heart. Breathe slowly, touch the area around your heart and feel grateful. This is called a feeling prayer. Do it whenever you feel down and notice the difference.
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